Men get ahead for being 'disagreeable' in the workplace; women don't
In the workplace they do, according to new research co-authored by University of Notre Dame Management Professor Timothy Judge. But there also is a double standard for women and, yes, a pay gap.
Judge, the Franklin D. Schurz Professor of Management in Notre Dame鈥檚 Mendoza College of Business; Beth Livingston from Cornell University; and Charlice Hurst of the University of Western Ontario, document the effects of gender and 鈥渁greeableness鈥 in their study,
In contemporary psychology, 鈥渁greeableness鈥 is one of the 鈥淏ig Five鈥 dimensions of personality used to describe human personality. It generally refers to someone who is warm, sympathetic, kind and cooperative (in short, a 鈥渘ice鈥 person), and is the most valued characteristic cited when people are asked to identify with whom they want to spend time.
But in terms of predicting workplace success, 鈥渁greeableness鈥 doesn鈥檛 carry the same cachet, says Judge.
鈥淲e studied four large data sets,鈥 he says. 鈥淎nd in all four we found there is a penalty for being agreeable in the workplace. But, while men earn a premium for being disagreeable, women don鈥檛.鈥
It鈥檚 the stereotypical double standard according to Judge.
鈥淚f you鈥檙e a disagreeable man, you鈥檙e considered a tough negotiator,鈥 he says. "But, the perception is that if a woman is agreeable, she gets taken advantage of, and if she is disagreeable, she鈥檚 considered a control freak or 鈥榯he B-word.鈥
鈥淭hink about Martha Stewart and Donald Trump,鈥 Judge says. 鈥淭hey鈥檙e both tough people and, yet, I think Martha Stewart has gotten much more negative press and taken more grief because she鈥檚 a disagreeable woman.鈥
The study shows a strong negative relationship between agreeableness and earnings for men. The more agreeable a man is, the less he will earn. For women, there is essentially no relationship at all. Regardless, they earn less than men.
So, what recourse is there for women?
鈥淭here鈥檚 a difference between disagreeing and being disagreeable,鈥 Judge says. 鈥淪o, I think women should not compromise and, in fact, it鈥檚 even more important for them to be aggressive in what they ask for. I tell negotiation students they need to ask for what they want to the point of ridiculousness. People think there are long-term consequences to asking for too much at work, and I don鈥檛 think there鈥檚 any evidence of that.
鈥淣ow, the unfairness of it,鈥 Judge continues, 鈥渋s that when women ask for more, they are more likely to have their motives questioned, which can neutralize some of the advantages. So, I think women must present their requests in a non-threatening, gentle but firm sort of way. In essence, the way women communicate their demands matters more than it does for men.鈥
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