3Qs: Examining the changing nature of marriage

A recent report from the Pew Research Center highÂlighted that 4.2 milÂlion adults were newly marÂried in 2011, which is a decline from the 4.5 milÂlion newÂlyÂweds estiÂmated in 2008. The estiÂmates come from the Census Bureau's AmerÂican ComÂmuÂnity Survey, which began asking responÂdents in 2008 whether they had been marÂried, divorced or widÂowed in the preÂvious 12 months. Here, Suzanna WalÂters, proÂfessor of sociÂology and director of Women's, Gender and SexÂuÂality Studies ProÂgram, sugÂgests posÂsible reaÂsons for fewer AmerÂiÂcans marrying.
Barely half (51 percent) of American adults were married in 2011, according to the report data, compared with 72 percent in 1960. What might account for this decline, and what factors should be considered when determining whether the institution of marriage has changed over time?
When there is panic in the press or among politiÂcians about marÂriage changing, we need to take a deep breath and remember that marÂriage is always evolving. For instance, the 72 perÂcent of marÂried AmerÂiÂcans in 1960 repÂreÂsents a post-​​war marÂriage boom. Twenty years before that, marÂriage rates for college-​​educated women were strikÂingly low. MarÂriage rates have and always will fluctuate.
It is also imporÂtant to note that the instiÂtuÂtion of marÂriage has never been stable in the way that is has been ideÂoÂlogÂiÂcally imagÂined. HisÂtorÂiÂcally, we've seen marÂriage go from someÂthing that once only propÂerÂtied classes pracÂticed, to a much more demoÂcÂratic affair—from polygÂaÂmous to dyadic; from arranged to comÂpanÂionate. NevÂerÂtheÂless, marÂriage has been built on an ediÂfice of disÂcrimÂiÂnaÂtion that enforced a hetÂeroÂsexual norm as the only route to marÂital legality. While this is changing, the fedÂeral Defense of MarÂriage Act remains in place and same-​​sex marÂriage is illegal across the majority of the United States.
Lastly, we must also conÂsider that for women specifÂiÂcally, marÂriage has shifted from outÂright ownÂerÂship and coverÂture, to the more "benign" inequities of the double shift—where women are expected to be equal wage earners but also to take the lion's share of domestic responÂsiÂbilÂiÂties and tasks.
Marriage rates fell from 2008 to 2011 among all age and education groups, but particularly for less-educated Americans. What do you make of the connection between education level and marriage, and has this connection also evolved over the years?
In many ways, eduÂcaÂtional attainÂment in the U.S. is a stand-​​in for ecoÂnomic class. MarÂriage has so much to do with propÂerty relaÂtionÂship even if it is also about love, or at least a disÂcourse of romantic attachÂment. People with less propÂerty—or few hopes of greater attainÂment in their lifeÂtimes because of lower levels of eduÂcaÂtion—are less likely to find marÂriage to be a comÂpelling conÂtract in which to enter.
It is not that people with less eduÂcaÂtion—and thereÂfore lower socioeÂcoÂnomic class status—necessarily have a lower regard for marÂriage as an instiÂtuÂtion. Rather, there is a sort of conÂflict between the expecÂtaÂtions we have of marÂriage, such as homeÂownÂerÂship, and the declining ecoÂnomic prospects of workers who are not colÂlege eduÂcated. If we believe that entering into marÂriage is predÂiÂcated on being able to own a home, pay the bills, have a stable job and parÂticÂiÂpate in our conÂsumerist economy, then many less-​​educated AmerÂiÂcans simply can't meet that bar. This is parÂticÂuÂlarly true in times of ecoÂnomic recesÂsion or depresÂsion. In other words, if being a "breadÂwinner" is part of the marÂriage equaÂtion, then it is surely less salient as an instiÂtuÂtion for those ecoÂnomÂiÂcally more bereft, either due to eduÂcaÂtional levels, racial inequalÂiÂties or class stratification.
Will the decline of marriage have an effect on family life?
We shouldn't conÂfuse "marÂriage" with "family." Lots of people get marÂried, but many of them get divorced as well. Although divorce rates have declined in recent years, data shows that four out of 10 marÂriages still end in divorce. What this means is that only a small number of famÂiÂlies are "nuclear"—meaning two parÂents and kids. At its height, the nuclear family only accounted for about 40 perÂcent of AmerÂican famÂiÂlies, and now it accounts for about 20 perÂcent of them—including stepÂfamÂiÂlies. For decades now, most AmerÂican famÂiÂlies have been conÂstructed outÂside or between marriages.
In fact, I would argue that the decline of marÂriage as a sigÂniÂfier of adultÂhood, citÂiÂzenÂship and social belonging is actuÂally a good thing. Valuing famÂiÂlies of choice, indiÂvidual sexual libÂerty and alterÂnaÂtive forms of conÂstructing kinÂship can open up our imagÂiÂnaÂtions to creÂative new patÂterns of care and intiÂmacy. To the extent that marÂriage is dethroned as the access point for such social resources as healthÂcare and retireÂment benÂeÂfits—as well as citÂiÂzenÂship—our society will all better off.
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